What is Facesitting?

Facesitting is a sex act that sparks curiosity, excitement, and sometimes nervous laughter.

Facesitting (sometimes called queening or kinging) is when one person sits or straddles the other person’s face, usually for oral sex.

There are different ways to facesit:

• Knees bent (hovering position): Provides more control and comfort.

• Full squat: More pressure and intensity.

• Reverse position: Facing away for a new angle and surprise element.

So, Do Women & Men Like Facesitting?

The answer is always a resounding yes—but the reasons can vary depending on perspective, personality, and comfort level.

Facesitting is more than just a amazing sex act; it's an experience that mixes intense, dominance, sexy, and enjoyable, making it one of the most talked-about oral sex positions.

In this guide, we’ll explore what facesitting is, why do guys like facesitting, safety tips and tricks to make it even more pleasurable for both partners.

Why Do Men Like Facesitting?

• The feeling of being “trapped” under their partner.

• Intense closeness - body contact, smell, and taste.

• Watching their partner lose control with pleasure.

Men often describe it as “the hottest way to focus 100% on her orgasm.” As one man said: “I know my girl better each time from this.” 

Why Do Women Enjoy Facesitting and How Does It Feel?

While not all women are immediately comfortable with the idea, but many find facesitting deeply empowering and pleasurable. Here's why:

• Control and dominance – being literally “on top” can feel powerful.
  

• Deeper oral stimulation – sitting allows for different angles and pressure.

• Confidence and body positivity – it’s a reminder that your body is sexy and deserves pleasure.

You may ask does facesitting hurt? Some women feel hesitant t first. They are always trying their hardest to stay perfectly positioned so they're not going to suffocate the guy, but that makes it harder to relax and enjoy the pleasure of it. Others find it too close, too personal, or even quite exposed - even someone they are extremely comfortable with.

The trust is, bodyweight doesn't makes a difference here - It's about confidence. You're in that position for your own pleasure. If either person is uncomfortable, runs out of breath, or hurts, I'm sure they will fix it or let you know immediately. You can even agree on hand signals or tap-outs before starting, just to keep things safe and fun. 

And if you're still really worried about your weight, stick your arms out to hold onto something like the wall or a headboard. 

How to Facesit?

1. Find a position where you feel comfortable and balanced.

2. Sit down, relax your legs, and be comfortable putting your weight on them. 

3. Give your partner time to adjust their breathing and position.

4. Grind or rock your hips, thrust or push/pull away.  

5. Agree on a non-verbal safe hand signal if breathing becomes too restricted.

6. Turn around or lean back and play with his cock or clitoris. It's great.

7. Adding sex toys like clitoral stimulators, G-spot vibrators, dildos, or butt plugs can make the experience better for both parties.

8. Watch their reactions—facesitting is about shared pleasure.

Even if you relax completely, the fact that your knees are bent creates a buffer for his face. It would be a lot more intense if you sat with your legs out in front of you in a L shape, but you could still handle it.

Tips and Tricks

Here are some tips and tricks to improve or change up the basic facesit.

When you're in the act, both of you need to be comfortable, and your partner should not be suffocated beyond his level of comfort. 

1. Keep your knees on either side of his head and hold onto something in front of you - this means you're transferring the weight of your body away from just your knees and shifting the center of gravity such that you can control your hips but not bear down on his face entirely unless you want to do it occasionally for the thrill.

2. Consider keeping pillows around on either side of his head so your knees can be comfortably supported.

3. Ask him to cup your butt so that you can be massaged as you ride his face, and his fingers can signal to you if something is off.

Other Fun Ways to Tease

If you are not a big fan of receiving blow jobs or always feel it is awkward, try this interesting teasing way.

1. Tying the other person up and blind folding them, teasing with him by drawing away just when he wanted more. That was definitely a turn on.

2. Bobbing onto his face, driving yourself onto him. This is such a wonderful way to show your body off.

Even if you self conscious about a lot of my body but honestly the pleasure outwieghs (pun intended) worrying about wobbly bits. 

And make your guy do whatever the fuck you want. Maybe smother him with a wartenberg pinwheel and feather ticklers teasers dance across his skin. Grind into his face a bit. Tease him.

Final Thought

So, do women or men like facesitting?

Absolutely. For men, it’s the thrill of submission and giving. For women, it’s empowerment, confidence, and intense orgasms.

Be selfish, enjoy your orgasms - he will too!